Just walking along the street In the showers at the gym Pass the envelope please. Well, “the showers at the gym” is definitely out if you want to keep your rep as a skirt chaser. The place men felt most comfortable giving or receiving a hug or hearing, “I love you, man” was in public.42 Researchers determined the reason for this is that public displays of affection between romantic partners is less appropriate in public than in private. So, counterintuitively, two males hugging in public seems the antithesis of romance. The best place, a study called “The Male to Male Embrace: B Why this Book Is Guaranteed to Work! This Is Not a Book—It’s a Contract Sociological Studies Support the Contract Listen to the Testimonials

What’s Your Optimism Quotient (OQ)? To find out precisely what qualities make people like us, the American Sociological Association conducted a vast study.12 The results? At the top of the list was having a positive optimistic personality and confidence in yourself. I’m sure you’ve seen the TV interviews with the athletes just before the tennis match, the football game, the wrestling match. The reporter asks the player, “Do you think you’re going to win?” She replies, “Definitely.” In another interview, he asks her opponent the same question and her answer is the same, “Absolutely.” Or a reporter asks a boxer, “Are you going to win?” He replies, “I’m-a gonna kill da mudder fudder.” Then he asks the contender the same question. He answers, “Ha! I ain’t gonna swap leather for The most important question you can ask your friends is ‘How are you?’ but you need to really ask the question and really listen to the answer. We are all so conditioned to using this as a greeting rather than a question the words have lost their meaning so try to find other ways of asking like, ‘What’s been going on in your life/world/work/family etc’ or ask specifics like ‘How are your children?’ How is your partner etc’. My GP always ‘double asks’, he says, ‘how are you’, I say, ‘I’m fine’ and he says ‘Yes, but how are you?’ The second time he asks he usually gets a more authentic response. I know it’s not your job but could you direct me to the Midtown Hotel?” “I bet you’re really tired of people asking, but could you direct me to . . .” “I bet you’re thinking, ‘Oh oh, here comes another lost tourist.’ And you’re right. But could you . . .” “I know you’re here on a much more important assignment to protect life and limb, but could you tell me where . . .” Not only will you get a smile, you’ll get extra good directions. Here is the first clause in How to Be a People Magnet. Because it is for both men and women, I’ve marked it with both 7 and 6. If you are going to make a sincere effort to speak from your listener’s perspective, then go ahead and sign on the dotted line. That is your commitment to yourself. The Power of Gifts: Or a Great Way to Get Rid of Junk You Don’t Want! Clause #25: Tchotchkes for Chums From now on, no more automatic one-size-fits-all smiles. I will look at each person, see the beauty in him or her, and let the smile s-l-o-w-l-y erupt from my heart and spill over onto my face.

In this practical and straightforward guide, you will learn specific principles that will help you to build more powerful relationships, stronger connections, and leave a positive, lasting impression on everyone you get in touch with. Most of them are common sense, but it’s always good to have a reminder, because as they say, “Common sense is the least common of all senses."

This one takes a lot of practice to perfect. That said, take a story from your own life for now and practice telling it in a way that should captivate the listeners. Practice at home. Try telling it in front of a mirror. Make sure you tell your story coherently and make sure it flows naturally. Set every scene, mention details that are relevant, and leave out those that aren’t. AMore Magnetic Attraction! People Magnets know if they want dynamic friends drawn to them, they must keep growing. When people become too predictable, boredom sets in and the relationship suffers. This is a great way to become a people magnet. Empaths attract people because they’re capable of understanding other people at a very complex level. With time and practice, you can be this kind of person too. Be a person of actionTo draw more friends and lovers to me (and/or be a better friend and lover to those I have), I will consciously grow my gifts in all areas—appearance, knowledge, finances, personality, prestige, and, most importantly, character. The better you are at listening to other people, the more magnetized they will be to you. A lot of people appreciate a person who’s a good listener. You will need to be that kind of person of you want to be a people magnet. When you interact with people, make sure their words don’t just go through one ear and pass through the other. Make them feel heard and actually show interest to them. When they talk about their interests, show excitement too. They’ll highly appreciate the fact that you’re excited for them.

First impressions matter. If you want to be a people magnet, make sure to leave a great first impression with everybody you meet. You can do this by always being nice to everybody you meet. Don’t pretend to be a good person, actually be a good person.

Whenever people are speaking, I will be sensitive to their body language and try to determine how they feel about what they are saying. I will then respond to that as much as their words. What did I have in return? No talent as valuable as his to share, but I did have some empty space in my loft which I was thrilled to have a fellow writer and computer genius rent, thus he became my Platonic Male Roommate (PMR). Whenever I hug someone I want to hug, I’ll hold on tight, for just a second or two longer, to make it a real hug.

Many books offer relationship advice, but what sets this book apart is that you’ll learn specific skills that will enhance your ability to be a people magnet. Theories make for interesting reading, but growth comes from putting the theories into practice. As a continuation of the previous point, it will also serve you better to use humor if you want to be a people magnet. You don’t need to be the funniest person in the room, but you will need to have a sense of humor to at least attract people. No one likes a dull individual who takes everything way too seriously. At the same time, no one likes people who are joking about every single subject or being sarcastic all the time. Find your balance. Learn how to tell better stories As the title suggests, "How to Become a People Magnet" offers a comprehensive guide for individuals seeking to attract and positively influence others. It not only provides guidance on becoming a people magnet, but also offers insightful tips for personal growth and self-improvement. "How to Become a People Magnet" presents a thorough and comprehensive guide, catering to individuals seeking to enhance their interpersonal skills and positively influence others. And key to that, is one simple three-worded question which we’ve been asking all along, but haven’t quite nailed yet. Having said this, it will serve you better to be better at conversations overall. You shouldn’t only be good at listening but you’ll actually need to be good at responding as well. You’ll need to be able to dissect everything another person says to you and use that information to construct the best responses. Be more empatheticTo be a people magnet, you’ll need to tweak a couple of habits and personality aspects. This is so you can be more appealing and attractive to others that they’ll want to be near you or be comfortable being around you. Why Do We Prefer One Person Over Another? Deborah Gets the Last Laugh (and Leil Eats Her Hat) Clause #6: Listen to Their Heart